Just look around you and will see a world gone crazy. People you think you know well for a long time can surprise you with what they have been hiding about themselves cloaked and concealed behind this story they hold about themselves in their minds and keep telling the same story over and over again, hence create a certain reality for themselves, solely based on their own vibrational state. Whether we like to believe this or not, we mirror each others emotions ... we exchange energy all the time. Our thoughts and feelings are frequencies which can be sensed across vast distances.

In our world when we fall in love with someone we usually look for certain traits in a person which we can live with. Each one of us comes with a certain perspective towards reality before we get into a relationship. With time things are bound to change ... and sometimes in a relationship, one of the partners is resistant towards change, still clinging on to an old image of themselves, while in reality the truth may be quite different as seen by the partner who might have progressed much further, spiritually. This is how we start becoming more fake and less authentic in our lives as we continue to pretend to be someone we are not, just to fit in and get along.

Each one of us once here on Earth school will learn certain lessons whether we like it or not, through many experiences which will keep us swinging between highs and lows as long as we identify the self with our bodies. Relationships have been reduced to a give and take arrangement, instead of being a beautiful synergy of thoughts, ideas, visions of a better future ... while evolving together.

Sadhguru shares much profound wisdom on the dilemma of human relationships ... in particular between Man and Woman in the following article ... he provides a solution, to much respite :) ... and its beautifully said ... every word rings true !

Q: Why is it that love and marriage often create the maximum conflict between people?

Sadhguru: “Man” and “woman” are physically, kind of opposite. Nature has made us this way so that the process of reproduction happens and the next generation becomes a possibility. If that was not necessary – if storks were dropping babies from the skies – we would not need a man and a woman to work for the future generations to come. And if there wasn’t a deep sense of compulsion about the reproductive process, people would not go for it. Every cell in your body, including your brain cells, are taken over by hormones and compel and propel you in that direction. It takes enormous intelligence for a person to rise beyond that. Otherwise it looks like this is life – it makes you feel like that. Till you were 10 or 11 years old, you did not even think about it. Whatever the other people were doing looked funny. But suddenly, this new chemical took over the body and now it is all an absolute reality.

You have been drugged and chemically sabotaged by nature to fulfill its own purpose of reproduction, continuation, and perpetuation of the species. Once this happened, now somehow, man and woman are compelled to come together. Or in other words, once this compulsion comes, naturally the mind begins to work in that way as to how to get the best out of it.

The Give & Take Calculation

Fundamentally, a relationship is unfortunately happening with an intention to somehow make use of each other. It is a give-and-take relationship. When you are giving and taking on a daily basis, always one person will feel, “I am giving more, the other person is giving less.”

Only in those moments of love, can a man and woman really be together. Once that is not there, it is very difficult.

Societies have always taught you that to be smart is to give less and take more. Whether it is a marketplace or a marriage, it is the same calculation. This is why there is so much talk about love, so that you transcend this calculation. When you are emotionally overwhelmed by someone, you transcend the calculation. It becomes, “What I take is not important, what I give is important.” The relationship runs beautifully when it is at that level of emotional intensity. Once that emotional intensity drops, it just becomes give-and-take. You do give-and-take in your business, with your neighbor, with so many people, but those transactions are limited – but the give-and-take in a marriage is constant, and you are caged with this particular person constantly. So, naturally you feel that in some way, you are being used by someone else. Once this comes in, there is conflict, conflict, conflict.

Only in those moments of love, can a man and woman really be together. Once that is not there, it is very difficult. The physicality and emotionality of it and other aspects of sharing and living become a struggle. Especially because the physical body is involved, one can very easily feel that they are being used by someone. If it was just money, if it was just a house, there is some settlement, “Okay, you use that part of the house, I will use this part of the house.” “You cook, I will earn.” But because the body is involved, very easily one will feel used, so there is conflict.

The Solution

Q: So what is the solution?

Sadhguru: You should stop being a man or woman all the time. You don’t have to carry your manhood or womanhood 24 hours of the day. There are certain situations in certain aspects of life where you need to be a man or a woman. The rest of the time, you do not have to be either. But societies have trained you to be like this all the time. From the very clothes that you wear and the way you do everything – you have been trained in a certain way, to serve a certain purpose. Once you become like this – 24 hours man or 24 hours woman – you are troubled. But if you know how to simply be a piece of life, you will be fine; and when there is a requirement that you have to be a man or woman, you can play your role pretty well. So please save it. Don’t just go on spreading it around in the street. Just walk and live as a piece of life. If you are like this, there will be no conflict. It will be just fine. Two human beings can live together.

You should stop being a man or woman all the time. You don’t have to carry your manhood or womanhood 24 hours of the day. “Man and woman” are two compulsions. Two compulsions can never live together. The more identified you are with your sexuality, the more compulsive you will become. When you are compulsive, naturally you will step over many people. Once you start stepping on each other, there will be trouble. If you do not identify yourself too much with your womanhood or manhood and if you just walk as a piece of life, you will see that it is such a minor part of your life. You do not have to structure your life around it.

So much of your potential would find expression if you just do not get too identified with your sexuality. People would become so much more creative and so much more capable of various things that they have not imagined.

Source : Isha Yoga

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If you are feeling pain in your life for whatever reason, you should know that this pain we experience is the result of the collective unconscious, acting through all our individual choices. We are all going through various kinds of conflicts in our lives and it is this pain which makes me write .... as I too have been going through some serious changes in life, the lesson has always been love .... accepting it and letting go of it ... when it takes a twisted meaning, only to self gratify and satisfy our selfish needs and desires, while hurting others who have been loving and kind towards us, selflessly ... in so many ways.

Life teaches us many things .... all of us go through similar challenges, however not everyone looks within and makes an inner transformation to understand what the universe is trying to tell us through our painful experiences. We celebrate together in joy and happiness, but in difficult and challenging times, we find ourselves alone and isolated ... torn between our own chaotic thoughts and we suffer. This too happens for a good reason, it is showing us all the stuff that is affecting us negatively and what we can do to make a positive shift, letting go off all that doesn't serve us on our path. Sometimes, we have to let go off our loved ones and trust they are always taken care of by our divine mother (the universe). Letting go is not easy, but it is necessary if one truly wants to be free .... it doesn't mean you stop loving or caring for someone, but just that "love" takes a new meaning, which is all encompassing ... expansive ... and unconditional. We can be intimately involved with many partners during our lifetime and we might confuse this for 'love', which ends when things change and we quickly jump onto the next option available, only to realize this too shall pass, in some time. This kind of 'love' is what makes us suffer countless times, unless we redefine our terms based on our own experiences and not because EVERYONE believes so. A Mass Consensus Reality makes slaves out of us, tethered to false ideas which leave us perpetually drained and empty.

All changes we might be experiencing in our lives are pushing us forward to become something better ... to listen to our inner voice and not the noise from others around us. No one knows us better than our own selves ... We can lie, cheat, deceive many along our path, but the only one affected by our actions is us. Life comes full circle ... and the lessons will repeat themselves .... until they have served their purpose.

Here is an interesting read from Openhand ...

I strongly sense that the world has now edged into a new phase of its evolution. During the Divinicus Tour, people in the Openhand Community had the sense that Gaia was 'waiting'. Waiting for what? The Shift into the fifth density is not a time-line, but an event-line. The pathway must be opened progressively. Humanity is beginning to emerge from eons of darkness. We may not yet be fully ready, but the Earth cannot wait any longer. Realignment with the divine flow must now start to happen on a global scale. Due to its injustice, inequity and misalignment, the old reality will be steadily broken down, over time, so as to provide breathing space for more souls to break through, break out and ascend...

Onwards and Upwards we Go

At the conclusion of the Divinicus Tour, I was given to ascend Table Mountain in Cape Town. It was a 'Prayer for Humanity'. The jet lag of 9 weeks traveling, the tiredness of 13 workshops, and rapid dehydration, made it a very challenging ascent; it felt like I was staggering two steps forwards and one step backwards. The beads of sweat from my tired brow, were as tears into the heart of the Mountain - the heart of Gaia.

I could feel her, and she could feel me. As I encountered various people on the path, in all shapes, sizes, nationalities and states of physical ability, it spoke to me as a metaphor: of the challenges each face on the ascent up the spiritual mountain. It felt like a statement was being made:

"We may not yet be ready to ascend, we may have our challenges, but we are ready to begin"

Even though intensely challenging, my soul was observing, with every step: an opportunity to breakthrough and transcend the physicality - the pain. I felt no egoic need to either ascend or to give up and descend. But when I opened the contraction of any mind-led intention, my soul simply emerged and said... "Onwards and Upwards we Go".

Ascension is entirely natural, like love, when we remove all barriers in the way.

Onwards and Upwards we Go

Since returning from the Tour, I've felt several key things beginning to happen in the underlying field - the fourth density - which is beginning to materialise in the physical. Although I would add, it always takes the material time to respond to the energetic (because of its density). The sense of extreme weather on the increase was a definite indicator: the tour concluded as "Bombogenesis" (extreme weather 'bomb') began. It feels like the global economy is also reaching a new state of over-extention and exposure.

I also had a strong connection with Pele - the Goddess of Volcanoes. Let's remember that Gaia is herself a deity, and all life on the planet is maintained by devic consciousness - deities that coordinate and animate the various species of plant and animal life. That includes the elements earth, water, fire and air. A collapse mechanism of this old reality is now beginning, and it will involve all of these devas.

I sense that Volcanic Activity is on the increase, steadily bubbling and shifting the ground beneath our very feet. The science is inconclusive: more volcanic activity is being reported; some say it's simply because of mans increased ability to report. To me though, as with so many of these shifts now taking place, we have to get out of the head and into the heart to truly know what's going on. As we've seen so many times before, the science can - and is - purposefully manipulated to support whatever resistant case an ego wishes to put forwards.

If we really want to know what's going on in this great shift, we've got to go into stillness, to empty, to clear out all mind-led intention, desire and resistance to the flow.

Only then will we begin to hear the subtle interplays of consciousness.

Prepare for sudden, dramatic change

Right now, it feels to me as if the world - society - is hanging on a precipice. There's any number of reasons why it should begin to steadily breakdown: from extreme weather and natural upheaval; breakdown in the biosphere, including radioactive contamination; dwindling resources and energy; food and water scarcity; financial instability; civil unrest; disease, war and poverty. These are all potential 'trip switches' that could easily initiate a chain reaction.

Can you also feel the truth in this? I'm not raising these vitally important issues to spread fear; fear does not exist in a fully self-realised being. Fear is caused by identification with the small "I", the physical/emotional sense of small self. Mankind has for too long been imprisoned and enslaved by such limitation. If fear does arise, it provides an invaluable opportunity: to bring the unconscious blind spots out into the light so that we can work on them...

If we are each "the One", as many in spiritual circles believe, and the One cannot die, then in the grand scheme of things, what is there to be afraid of?

That said, we are 'the One' flowing as a stream of consciousness - the soul - just like being the ocean and a wave on the ocean at the same time. And each soul is here to honour authentic beingness: to fully unleash and express who we are.

Islands in the Storm

The matrix limits full expression of the soul. Many may as yet have to break through the fears of dramatic upheaval and change. Many may still prefer the soft shoulder of society. But is not the continuation of the dehumanisation and degradation of the current status quo worse than dramatic upheaval?

It is understandable that we might have resistance to change, especially if it's going to push buttons by challenging the very nature of our physical existence, including those of friends, family and loved ones. But that's exactly what we Warriors of Truth have been put here for: to make sense of what's going on; to help others through times of great change, which this evolutionary Ascension of Gaia is all about.
There are ways in which we can prepare. In my book Divinicus, I've talked about this upheaval, but also the strong sense that there will be "Islands in the Storm": places where the soul will draw you; preparations you can make - in order that you will have time and space, for friends and family, to support one-another as you transcend into the Divine Being - mankind's next evolutionary chapter.

Prepare for sudden, dramatic change

It is with these things in mind that I felt to share the dramatised documentary below. It's about the supervolcano under Yellowstone Park. It has erupted three times before, and some believe we are due for a fourth any time soon. That may or may not be the case. I do believe volcanic action and earthquakes are now on the increase and will likely affect many in due course. But that's not specifically why I feel to share it and encourage you to watch.

It's because what's depicted in the movie is highly plausible. It's the kind of chaotic event that could happen for any number of reasons in today's extremely exposed world: from earthquakes, volcanic activity, super storms, tsunamis and general civil unrest, due to the challenged global supply infrastructure.

So as you watch it, consider what it activates in your consciousness. If there's fear, why? If it causes you to get tight inside, how can the Divine Being in you soften and open up instead? And also, what physical preparations might you make - right now - in case of disruption to the global supply chain (at the very least, I suggest a store of bottled water and food). It's about buying you some time and breathing space, as you begin to walk the Path between Worlds.

from my heart to yours

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Greetings Dear One .... If you have been following this blog for a while, you have probably witnessed how it has been evolving .... with time. What initially started of as a way to vent out feelings and emotions has turned out to be one of my life's missions which I am happy to have discovered .... at the right time, as always.

Relationships teach us emotions ... our emotions have a lot to say about ourselves. Once you are awakened to your own soul, there is no looking back and going back to someone you think you were. Perhaps, this change is what most of us find hard to wrap our intellect around, also because we haven't yet been able to open our hearts to loving all .... our mind, this sense of separation (the ego) keeps us in a perpetual state of suffering, as it desires ... its disappointed ... it seeks ... it fails .... it also wins at times .... giving it a false sense of accomplishment and momentary gratification. Finally all seeking, no matter what it helps accomplish has emotions attached with it ... which keeps bringing us important lessons, so we can evolve.

The Dark Night of the Soul may seem like recurring for some of us in our lives because he haven't yet learnt what was meant to be learnt .... sometimes the lesson is simply to let go of our illusions of the ego mind and just be. It is however not so easy without the guidance of someone who has walked the same path. For that reason we have our spirit guides, if only we listen to them enough through our own intuition. But we must go through a certain dark passage in our lives once we truly surrender to the universe to show us the way .... only then we truly appreciate the light. Until then we can keep reincarnating many lifetimes without having achieved much, which is essential to our progress as souls.

Sex, is a powerful medium to connect, heal ... exchange energy .... while experiencing the divine in this union of the opposites, the masculine and feminine energies. The world thrives on Sex, however its true purpose remains widely unrecognized as most seek instant gratification through constant orgasms and remain lost in the imaginary world of fantasies. It may be a very confusing period for some of us who are in difficult relationships, because of a changed lifestyle or worldview which may not be in sync with our partner .... this may lead to a lot of chaos and suffering in our lives, as the human drama plays out .... Sex and Love are two terms which have been twisted and manipulated by 'consensus reality' in so many ways that it has taken many perverse forms and keeps human consciousness in lower densities ... not allowing us to move towards higher frequencies. Love is who we are .... Sex is a way of expressing this love towards someone we are mutually drawn to from the deepest core of our being .... not solely because of other external factors such as looks, social status .... etc. Until we have recognized ourselves as a 'soul' ... our 'ego' will meet the 'ego' in others .... and we continue to feed our illusions and fantasies, as long as it lasts .... When two souls unite ... the divine magic beyond our limited self is experienced.

I came across this beautiful article on 'Soul Sex' which I deeply resonate with .... Hope it makes sense to you too .....

Are You Ready for Soul Sex?

Everywhere we turn we are bombarded with sex: media, magazines, movies, billboards. It’s everywhere and constant. Marketing and advertising uses sex to sell everything from hamburgers, to underwear, to cars.

As you know Sex itself is an incredibly powerful energy that when not understood can be the source of much confusion and suffering.

Regular sex is simply about a release, or relieving yourself of stress. It’s the type that leaves you deeply unfulfilled.

Soul sex is the understanding that it is really the exchange of energy, your energies and your partner’s. It’s alchemy that when engaged together in love can open and heal you, your mind, your body, your heart and Soul. Real sex is an energetic exchange and sharing not just a means to release or satisfy the body. Your body might be satisfied but, if sex just remains on a purely physical level, it will be a fleeting high. Real fulfilment cannot be found through the body alone. Pain and pleasure come and go.

The pleasure from sex that arises simply through the body is incredibly transitory. Soul sex happens when you recognize who you are and who the other is. First and foremost, you are Souls, not just a physical body. Then your lovemaking becomes the opportunity for your Souls through the vehicle of your body to dance, exchange, communicate, play and express loving as a gift to each other. When you engage your beloved sexually with the fullness of love and you no longer see your partner as a separate self or simply as another body of flesh, a profound shift occurs within you and your lovemaking will deepen. Then the real exchange happens on the Soul level. At the Soul level there is a sacred communion, the illusions of separation between you and the other drop away and you dissolve as ONE.

As you realize that you are not the body, your partner is not the body, but you are Souls, you can allow each other’s body to serve as a temple becoming the portal into a deeper dimension of the Infinite. What you then exchange with your partner through your bodies is Love energy itself. Then it becomes in the truest sense Lovemaking. You are both sharing the love that you are in that moment.

So Soul sex is the surrender of yourself, not just to your partner but also to the Divine that is living alive within him/her Itself.

Then, something magical happens. Sex moves from needing something, trying to get something, or a game of power and control. It is a letting go of control. It becomes about deep surrender to that which is living and breathing us all.

True lovemaking happens the more you realize and embody that what you are is LOVE itself.

When you make love, you let go. Then there is no you or other. There is only Now. There is only Freedom.

Perhaps this is why we are so obsessed with sex a culture. Yet what we are really seeking is not simply a momentary release – but something far deeper. We are searching for that which is formless and beyond pain or pleasure.

You are ultimately seeking your true Self.

Sex then becomes no more a path to enlightenment, but the very manifestation of Enlightenment itself.

Your lovemaking becomes the expression of the true Light of who you are, manifesting itself as an offering through your body.


Give up all techniques, strategies and resistances to loving. Let go. Release. Relax. Trust. Dive in. Embrace.

Simply surrender.

When you surrender, there is no more you or another.

There is no more lover, loved or loving.

There is only Love.

Love. Now.

~ Kute Blackson

Source : Daily Love

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