One of the best videos you have on the internet about the Walk In experience which some of us might have gone through, while in a state of lot of confusion and chaos with no 'real' answers, just a deep inner knowing of following the signs being shown. There are many truths shared in this video which will confirm a lot of things for you as you watch it, especially if you are a walk-in too ... giving us cues as to how to pave the way forward and what is expected in our near future on Earth.


My walk in / awakening experience happened while dancing at a jungle party in Goa tripping on some LSD. A brief vision of the astral realms made me question reality at large and everything i considered REAL ! The difficult part was to assimilate this metaphysical experience in my world view with little understanding of this all encompassing spiritual reality we share. I am quite sure that these experiences are common with a lot of folks who experiment with psychedelics, however not everyone. I just couldn't go back to being my old self again for some strange reason. After watching this video by Susan I feel all the signs of a walk in experience match with what i experienced at that time. A withdrawal from my social circle ... a feeling of alienation from the rest of the world not being able to fully understand whats really going on ... with so many signs pointing the way. Thankfully, I was following the signs and soon after my blog, 'Psychedelic Adventure' came into being and a purpose emerged. From chasing my individual goals in life now i was flung into the vast abyss of space, trying to figure out the unknown .... bit by bit.

I did have some support from friends however no one could really comprehend what i was going through at that time. By interests changed drastically and gradually became less interested in worldly matters and more curious to expand my knowing of who I am and what's really going on. My purpose became clearer as time progressed with a lot of support from my dear wife who stood by me during this challenging period of life. While i continued to grasp spiritual concepts and ideas quickly, moving on from one thing to another, I became extensively immersed in my quest to know. My partner however couldn't keep up with all the stuff I was getting into. My world view changed drastically from being ego-centric to something deeply spiritual with an inner knowing that this is the path I need to take. My diet, my lifestyle ... all of it went through some sort of metamorphosis as I was gradually assimilating this knowledge being given to me.


I used to spend many hours in complete silence while pursuing my research online on metaphysical knowledge, which made me a different person as time progressed. I became more observant and sensitive to energies and vibrations around me, often having exciting experiences playing with nature spirits or orbs using my digital camera. The illusions of the material world became apparent as time progressed and I became deeply engrossed in my quest for the unknown. Others around me would listen to what I had to say, perhaps understanding somethings intellectually, but never being able to assimilate this knowing in their own lives. I realized not everyone is awake as yet and each one has their own journey to take. I always spoke my truth without any inhibition and the fear of being judged. There were times when I would get into difficult situations getting my perspective across to others often ending up in arguments which is never a pleasant experience. Its draining to say the least. With time I got to know who is receptive to new, challenging ideas shaking the status quo and who is not, which made me hold myself back from going all out.

I lost the connection with many friends and dear ones who were once very close to me, but what I found instead was the real connection, with everything, spiritually speaking. I realized that behind the masks we wear there is an eternal presence which when known, changes how one sees the world. All attachments became increasingly apparent and were brought to my conscious awareness to be healed or let go off. After being with my wife for 10 years and having two beautiful souls being born into our family, I feel grateful for all the experiences life has had to offer. Some magical and uplifting and some unpleasant and dark. Life comes full circle for all of us ... with time. I experienced the pain and suffering of being in a platonic love relationship, realizing that what I believed to be love was just physical attraction, never a deep soulful connection. Although I did try and revive this feeling in my partner trying to make her aware of certain deeper aspects of being together in a relationship and growing together, spiritually. However, in vain. When two people come together, they believe this thing called love will last forever. The only thing we don't realize is that with time people change and sometimes the masks fall off and the truth emerges. When you move towards being genuinely authentic you have little tolerance for false pretenses, FAKE people and become extremely sensitive to lies and bullshit. When we love in a worldly sense, we fall for outer experiences and rarely find a soul connection with our partners and that's because not everyone truly realizes that they are NOT this body but an eternal aspect of universal consciousness. The mistake we make sometimes is trying to direct someones path, especially when they are not ready to walk it anyway. I have been learning my lessons.

My journey the last year has been a continual lesson in letting go off what is not serving me on my path and the difficult part is to let go off your attachments, your desires especially when they are concerning your family and loved ones. Loving someone and simultaneously letting go of a loved one wishing them well can be utterly confusing as we always rely on someone outside of our own selves to complete us in some way, fill a void we create for ourselves by allowing another person to be the reason for our happiness. Not enough love for our self makes us seek love externally. We know somewhere deep down that all that we seek exists within each one of us ... but it takes time for this realization to come forth in our own consciousness. When we love ourselves enough we are able to extend this love to others, unconditionally and we continue to attract like minded individuals into our lives, building stronger relationships with mutual respect and trust in each other. The future of this planet is in our hands. Our own personal transformation affects the world we experience. Once you wake up there is no going back to your old self and your purpose starts to become clearer. We have a lot of work to do, but first we must heal ourselves in order to be able to heal others around us. The healing of Gaia is the need of the hour and as lightworkers we must endeavor to make a difference and be fearless in our actions, living courageously igniting the divine spark within us.

We may be spread far across ... but we know we are one and we choose to live a life of awareness, purposefully and with loving intent. We are one family of light, destined to reunite when this tyrannical empire comes to an end, finally !


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From total indulgence in sensual pleasures while experiencing the divine through tantric practices, to abstaining from any sexual thoughts or activity for long periods of time can have a life changing impact on one's consciousness and general perception of reality. As we begin to conserve our sexual energy, we create more Ojas or Radiance in our Auric field, affecting others positively around us. On our earthly sojourns, we meet many people while pursuing this idea of 'love', which is defined by most as an inherent need for another to fulfill us in some way. It is beautiful, it is painful at times ... it serves its purpose. As beautiful the act of love making is, when over, it leaves one drained of our radiance as the ancients have always known, and we seem to have been hypnotized by our 5 senses into believing false, self gratifying ideas.

As I was flipping through the pages of 'Aghora : At the Left Hand of God', I came across the chapter on Sex and in particular, the part on Ojas caught my attention. After reading it, I felt this was a timely reminder for me ... as this is something that has been one of the recurrent lessons for me this year. From chasing orgasms in Tantric ecstasy to practicing celibacy is a journey towards discovering our true nature, and purpose to reincarnate on Earth in this lifetime. Maintaining a balance is key. There is much work to be done and it would be prudent to remain focused while allowing the true seeds of unconditional love to blossom within our being.


Ojas

Humans...believe that through sex they are creating a child. Why should they want a child? They just want someone to reproduce their own attributes [genes], someone who will appreciate and love them.....Real creation becomes possible only when they become aware of that impulse and transcend it....

For creation you must use the semen in a different way than you use it for procreation. Semen is that substance in the male body which has the ability to create. Only procreation is possible if it is expelled from the body, ejaculated during the sex act. If it is retained within the body, stored instead of being wasted, then real creation becomes possible through ojas. Ojas is the source of the body's metabolic energy...

It is said in Ayurveda that ojas is derived from semen, but this is not quite so. Ojas exists in association with the head and the nervous system. In fact the "aura" or "halo" which you can see around a person's head is composed of his or her ojas. When I say that loss of semen causes loss of ojas you must remember that sex is all in the mind. ...When thoughts of sex fill the mind the Kama Agni (Fire of Lust) [dopamine] becomes inflamed. Heat is anathema to ojas. The Kama Agni causes a disturbance in the ojas, which alters the brain chemistry and directs the endocrine glands to begin to secrete. The effect is first felt on the prostate in men and the Bartholin's gland in women. Whenever oozing from these glands occurs you can be sure that ojas is being dissipated. During celibacy the ojas goes on and on harmonizing itself.


Women are lucky in that every month all the filth in their blood is drained out. This is the function of menstruation, and each menstrual cycle strengthens a woman's ojas because there is less waste material in the body to disturb digestion or brain chemistry. Unfortunately, since women are nine times more passionate than men most of them will find that this increased ojas merely serves to increase their sex drive.They will be impelled to copulate more, and all the benefits will be lost. Ayurveda recognizes that the substances which rejuvenate the body also act as aphrodisiacs and warns that when a rejuvenating effect is desired, sex must be restricted.

Ordinary sexual activity destroys ojas, but so do thoughts of sex and sexual fantasies even if you do not act on them. In fact continual brooding about anything is equally devastating to the ojas because thought causes the mind and brain to heat up and this mental heat, no matter what the cause, causes excessive physical heat. According to Ayurveda, excessive heat in the body leads to constipation, the root of most diseases. Heat also causes hypersecretion of all the glands, which in turn excites the mind via the body. It's a vicious cycle. Excess coolness in the body can be readily dealt with; excess heat is dangerous. Any unnatural heat ruins the ojas just as surely as does, an inflamed Kama Agni.

Likewise, harmonious thoughts increase ojas. How often have you heard someone say to a pregnant woman, "What a glow you have about your face!" That glow is the aura, composed of ojas. You might think that a pregnant woman's ojas would be low because her body tissues are being depleted to furnish nutrients for the baby. But because of the emotions of motherhood [oxytocin], the overwhelming love for the child being formed, ojas actually increases....

From the Art of Living website ...

Ojas is a certain type of energy, vibrancy in you. Like in the morning you are very vibrant, then you go to work and get tired, and in the evening you don’t have that same energy, right?

In the same way, when you are enjoying through the five senses, you see television for three hours, or you sit in a movie for three hours and come out, your Ojas is spent. If you listen too much, or eat too much, your Ojas is gone. Too much sex and Ojas totally gets depleted. Ojas is spent when you are engaging in any of the five senses.

Ojas can be rebuilt in the system through proper food, rest and attitude, but not very late in life. You cannot say that you are trying to rebuild your Ojas at the age of 60 or so. It has to be done before a certain age. It is like you cannot become very flexible after a certain age.

Ojas is certain vibrancy in you, energy. Our body has seven substances and Ojas is one of them. In the pulse reading you can see that.

After a certain age, the testosterone hormone is gone; similarly Ojas is related to, let us say, hormones. You cannot build those hormones at a later age.

During teenage, Ojas is maximum, and then if one keeps up with a good routine, good food, then Ojas continues through the middle age. And in the middle age, you can increase it or completely get away with it. That is possible. But after sixty or seventy, you cannot say, ‘Okay, now I want to bring back the Ojas into my system’. It may be possible but it is difficult. It depends.

Source : Aghora : At the Left Hand of God


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In most ancient spiritual cultures and mystery schools, the role of tantra, or sacred sex, was understood as vital to spiritual awakening. Today numerous spiritual traditions still practice tantra. In the hieroglyphics of the Luxor Temple in Egypt you can still find symbolic depiction of sexual initiation. Mayan elders speak of sexuality as what orbits the planets and stars and connects us to the Milky Way and the universe. The Incan acknowledge the entire second stage of their mystery school as that of developing sacred sexuality in which both partners lovingly assist one other in moving toward "Christed consciousness." Buddhists, certain Hindu sects, ancient Essenes, and others also hold sacred sexuality as key to their paths. The Dolphin Star Temple Mystery School, of which I am the founder, divides its teachings into three primary stages. The first is awakening your Ka: ego transcendence, adapting a spiritual identity, and embodiment of your Higher Self. The second stage is awakening your Ba: healing and awakening of your soul through tantric sexuality. The third stage is awakening your Mer-Ka-Ba: union of your Higher Self and soul into your multidimensional hologram as held in place with sacred geometry.

As you begin to understand the indispensable relevance of right use of sexual energy to spiritual awakening, the focus turns inward to, "What can I do to make myself capable of and available for this aspect of awakening?" Some of those who practice tantra today have forgotten the major keys for this aspect of awakening which are surrender, love, and sacredness. There are those who practice tantra who have omitted these ingredients while doing all the techniques accurately. The end result will eventually be the attainment of power that is devoid of surrender to love and sacredness. And I believe we have enough history behind us to understand the dangers implicit in such attainment.

To assist you in further understanding sacred sexuality and its connection to your soul's awakening, I would like to offer the following channeling from one of my books. Archangel An-Ra is a feminine Light Being who is a member of the Pleiadian Archangelic Tribes of Light. She and other Pleiadian Archangels have long been involved in the spiritual teachings and mystery schools of Egypt, Lemuria, many Native American Tribes, the Maya, Inca, Hindu, and many others. The rest of this article is a channeled excerpt from The Pleiadian Tantric Workbook: Awakening Your Divine Ba, published by Bear and Co. of Santa Fe, New Mexico, copyright 1997.




An-Ra speaks: Beloveds, I am most grateful for the opportunity to speak to you ...and to bring you a wondrous story of creation, sexuality, and the awakening of your soul to its full potential and glory. You see, in truth, it is impossible to speak thoroughly about any of these three subjects without speaking of all three. The beauty of creation is that it involves all aspects of existence, as symbolized microcosmically in your body and consciousness.

Beyond this lifetime, or all of your lifetimes, there is an ongoing eternal wave of Creation. You see, in the beginning was the word, and the word was, "I Am." From Oneness, in a deep state of silence and peace, came the awakening to its own existence: "I Am." Within that Oneness, or Divine Source existed infinite possibilities. And each of us is one of those possibilities. Original Creation began when Oneness next thought, "If I exist, what else exists?" Then the division of Oneness into two birthed the first cosmic twins, Holy Mother and Holy Father. Their first experience of each other was one of awe, wonder, and loving adoration. This impulsed them into a spontaneous blending into Oneness again, and was what you might think of as the first tantric union. From that point, they began to birth possibilities, beginning with the Elohim and Archangels. From these Light Beings was birthed all of existence. And original Creations were all conceived and birthed in deep love including your own. And the impulse for union and Creation was always love and adoration and wanting to be One with the Beloved other.

Now we come to the part about human creation, conception and birthing. Needless to say, because of the nature of your birth experience coming through your mother's womb, the energy with which you were created, or conceived, will determine greatly your experience of yourself. Anything less than innocent love and adoration between parents at the time of conception, gestation, and birthing sets karmic patterns in place to be worked out in that life time. And you choose parents who will anchor the specific karmic patterns you need to transcend. If your mother felt ashamed of having sex, even with her husband, and your father was having pornographic fantasies instead of loving your mother and being present with her, these energies were imprinted on your soul as you entered your body at birth. Your initial imprint of male/female relationships, your own inner male and female aspects, and your relationship to your mother and father and to the world all come from the energy between your parents at the moment of conception. Was your mother relieved that your father was finally through? Did she feel like weeping but held the tears back instead? Or did she fake an orgasm in order to secretly have a sense of secret power over him? Did your father roll over, mumble good-night, and try not to look at your mother so he could hold onto his pretend fantasy in which the porno damsel was swept off her feet by his amorous and ardent love-making? Did he resent your mother for not responding that way? Or did he hold a double standard of thinking it vile for a woman to enjoy sex, while secretly fantasizing himself as an incredible lover that no woman could resist? Or perhaps you were fortunate and had parents who were healthy sexually and really loved each other.


Without healthy sexual attitudes and experiences, it is impossible to give birth to awakened, fully healthy children. Without male and female equality, love, adoration for one another, trust, respect, and shared innocence, full communion with Oneness is impossible as are peace, freedom, and joy. The lust-seduction control games; sexual attitudes of distrust, shame, lovelessness, and separation; as well as lack of spiritual presence during intercourse are literally destroying your soul's ability to experience wholeness and health in the third dimension. You see, your soul is directly impulsed by all sexual experiences whether loving and satisfying, or otherwise. If you are on a spiritual path, meditating regularly, clearing your emotions, healing your past lives, and seeing the finest of healers, you will still only be able to attain to an unsatisfactory level of spiritual awareness and wholeness if your sexual energy is not moving freely, fully, and lovingly through your body and soul. You need not have a partner in order to experience this, but your gendered relationships, both internal and external, must be balanced and healthy.

...What you call sexual energy, or sexual expression, is the stuff of which existence is both made and sustained. When a couple in love experiences total surrender one to the other during a heightened sexual experience, they become blended into a single consciousness containing equal parts male and female. The original experience of Oneness, or God, awakening to its own existence, and responding, was , "I Am," meaning, "I exist." That experience led to Oneness individuating its own male and female halves, then blending them into Oneness again. A rhythm or union, individuation, union, individuation was set in place, and cosmically, has continued ever since. So is the sacred function of your sexuality intended to bring about the same ecstasy and experience of Oneness as the original awakening of existence.

The female vulva is a geometric gateway to the cosmos. The vagina is the spiraling passageway through which a person must travel in order to enter the womb, which is the microcosm of the egg of existence. As the egg is "hatched," or fully activated, energy and consciousness move directly through another spiraling tunnel or passageway to the woman's soul. From the woman's soul the energy and light of love is sent out in waves back to her partner and through existence simultaneously. These waves are like ripples on water, only holographic. They are like bubbles expanding in wavelike motion as opposed to ripples on a flat surface. These waves create a blending of the soul of the woman and her partner. The love and ecstasy created by their union is transmitted through a spiral passageway down through the male's body into his prostate which further excites his penis to transmit the love, adoration, and joy energies passionately into the woman's vagina. This cycle is repeated in a continuum once both the male and female have totally surrendered to giving and receiving love and relinquishing all control. The two become a microcosm of the macrocosm of existence. They spin the galaxies together, hold planets in form, spiritually activate one another's souls and spirits through the dimensions, and heal each other and all of existence: and all while having a great time! Sound easy? Ideally yes. But your world has made it very complicated.

Trust and respect have been so long lost that you spend more time testing one another, making each other prove yourselves, finding reasons to doubt each other, and vying for control than you do creating and enjoying your love relationships. And these things you call love relationships are often little more than addictive pain patterns being acted out. Love does not need to possess, control, degrade, withhold, prove anything, distrust, or conquer. Love simply loves. It flows. It is uninhibited, uncontrived, natural, innocent, and spontaneous. And while discernment is needed in the selection of a partner, it need not prohibit you from loving everyone. Did you know that humans are terrified of feeling the totality of unconditional love? You have been taught to restrain yourselves lest you make a fool of yourselves. You have been taught that it is impossible to love fully without hurting if the other person does not return your love and promise to stay forever. Without 100 percent guarantee that you will not "lose," you hold backxa little or a lot. It does not really matter how much. The point is that the flow has been dammed and therefore controlled.

What if love were only possible by forfeiting all guarantees? What if love could only exist in the presence of surrender? What if there were no such thing as loss, only change? What if you had to let go before the other person did without knowing whether he or she will ever let go or not? You would risk disappointment; but that is all. If you have healthy self-esteem and self-love the person you love cannot devastate or humiliate you. He or she cannot make you feel unworthy; only you can! The object of love is not to win someone over, break through their barriers, make them need or desire you, or make sure you don't lose. The object of love is to love, to cherish, to honor, to adore, to respect, to never harm, to appreciate and never depreciate another. You can even love without objectification. This is the nature of your true being, your soul, your spirit. To experience love for no apparent reason and for no ulterior motive is a great sign that you are nearing completion of your trials and karmic pain. It is the way home to your true self. In the meantime, allowing yourself to objectify love is a step in the right direction. To fill your life with friends and/or a partner who naturally inspire you to love is a wonderful thing. To surround yourself with sacred objects of beauty, to live in a place you enjoy, to be in nature regularly, to do what you really like to do are all important ingredients in life that can help you become a more loving person. To be in relationships with people with whom you do not resonate in order to try and learn to love them is not the quickest way to work out your karma. It may show you your patterns, at best. But to remain in a relationship that is all struggle and resistance can harm you and your partner. Everyone, and all of creation, deserve to be loved and adored. If you are with someone whom you cannot love and adore with all your heart, it will serve you both more to separate than to remain together. I am not speaking of a strong, loving relationship that temporarily goes through a rough period. I am speaking of relationships in which one or both of the people involved are in resistance and unhappiness more often than notxonce the honeymoon phase is over. You see, when the honeymoon phase ends, relationships are intended to deepen. The honeymoon may be fun and inspirational, but it does not contain the depth that long-term loving, supportive relationships do.

When the love, trust, and surrender between two people in love are strong, either or both partners can go through difficult times of emotional healing, job stress, or problems with friends and other family members without affecting the bond in the relationship. If you are in a relationship with someone you love, and about whom you deeply care, to support them in the rough times as well as the easy times will be natural and fulfilling. If you are, however, in a relationship chiefly because the other person makes you feel good about yourself, fulfills your sexual fantasies, and makes life better for you, then when your partner is experiencing pain or difficulty you will feel abandoned, neglected, and unhappy and you will probably blame your partner for it. In order for a relationship to have any chance of bringing about true intimacy and sustainable love, you must deeply care about your partner and his or her life, feelings, and well-being, and be moved to want to give freely and lovingly to your partner.

This type of relationship foundation is imperative in order to have the relationship be an augment to your spiritual path and that of your partner, and to achieve the type of sexual union that brings about healing and awakening of your soul. The essential nature of the unrestrained soul is tantra. This leads to being in a constant orgasmic state in your whole body. In this state, energy blocks are dissolved, emotions released to flow naturally, and spiritual experience of love and Oneness are the norm. And it is what you and Earth most need at this time ...As always, our intention is to make your process of awakening as loving, effective, and gracious as possible while facilitating a deepening within yourself with yourself, others, and Oneness. ... Ecstatic tantric love returns you to Divine Flow and enlightenment.

Amorah is founder of the Dolphin Star Temple Mystery School, a contemporization of the ancient Egyptian Mystery School. She is author of The Pleiadian Workbook:Awakening Your Divine Ka, The Pleiadian Tantric Workbook: Awakening Your Divine Ba, Pleiadian Perspectives on Human Evolution.

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Just look around you and will see a world gone crazy. People you think you know well for a long time can surprise you with what they have been hiding about themselves cloaked and concealed behind this story they hold about themselves in their minds and keep telling the same story over and over again, hence create a certain reality for themselves, solely based on their own vibrational state. Whether we like to believe this or not, we mirror each others emotions ... we exchange energy all the time. Our thoughts and feelings are frequencies which can be sensed across vast distances.

In our world when we fall in love with someone we usually look for certain traits in a person which we can live with. Each one of us comes with a certain perspective towards reality before we get into a relationship. With time things are bound to change ... and sometimes in a relationship, one of the partners is resistant towards change, still clinging on to an old image of themselves, while in reality the truth may be quite different as seen by the partner who might have progressed much further, spiritually. This is how we start becoming more fake and less authentic in our lives as we continue to pretend to be someone we are not, just to fit in and get along.

Each one of us once here on Earth school will learn certain lessons whether we like it or not, through many experiences which will keep us swinging between highs and lows as long as we identify the self with our bodies. Relationships have been reduced to a give and take arrangement, instead of being a beautiful synergy of thoughts, ideas, visions of a better future ... while evolving together.

Sadhguru shares much profound wisdom on the dilemma of human relationships ... in particular between Man and Woman in the following article ... he provides a solution, to much respite :) ... and its beautifully said ... every word rings true !

Q: Why is it that love and marriage often create the maximum conflict between people?

Sadhguru: “Man” and “woman” are physically, kind of opposite. Nature has made us this way so that the process of reproduction happens and the next generation becomes a possibility. If that was not necessary – if storks were dropping babies from the skies – we would not need a man and a woman to work for the future generations to come. And if there wasn’t a deep sense of compulsion about the reproductive process, people would not go for it. Every cell in your body, including your brain cells, are taken over by hormones and compel and propel you in that direction. It takes enormous intelligence for a person to rise beyond that. Otherwise it looks like this is life – it makes you feel like that. Till you were 10 or 11 years old, you did not even think about it. Whatever the other people were doing looked funny. But suddenly, this new chemical took over the body and now it is all an absolute reality.

You have been drugged and chemically sabotaged by nature to fulfill its own purpose of reproduction, continuation, and perpetuation of the species. Once this happened, now somehow, man and woman are compelled to come together. Or in other words, once this compulsion comes, naturally the mind begins to work in that way as to how to get the best out of it.


The Give & Take Calculation

Fundamentally, a relationship is unfortunately happening with an intention to somehow make use of each other. It is a give-and-take relationship. When you are giving and taking on a daily basis, always one person will feel, “I am giving more, the other person is giving less.”

Only in those moments of love, can a man and woman really be together. Once that is not there, it is very difficult.

Societies have always taught you that to be smart is to give less and take more. Whether it is a marketplace or a marriage, it is the same calculation. This is why there is so much talk about love, so that you transcend this calculation. When you are emotionally overwhelmed by someone, you transcend the calculation. It becomes, “What I take is not important, what I give is important.” The relationship runs beautifully when it is at that level of emotional intensity. Once that emotional intensity drops, it just becomes give-and-take. You do give-and-take in your business, with your neighbor, with so many people, but those transactions are limited – but the give-and-take in a marriage is constant, and you are caged with this particular person constantly. So, naturally you feel that in some way, you are being used by someone else. Once this comes in, there is conflict, conflict, conflict.

Only in those moments of love, can a man and woman really be together. Once that is not there, it is very difficult. The physicality and emotionality of it and other aspects of sharing and living become a struggle. Especially because the physical body is involved, one can very easily feel that they are being used by someone. If it was just money, if it was just a house, there is some settlement, “Okay, you use that part of the house, I will use this part of the house.” “You cook, I will earn.” But because the body is involved, very easily one will feel used, so there is conflict.


The Solution

Q: So what is the solution?

Sadhguru: You should stop being a man or woman all the time. You don’t have to carry your manhood or womanhood 24 hours of the day. There are certain situations in certain aspects of life where you need to be a man or a woman. The rest of the time, you do not have to be either. But societies have trained you to be like this all the time. From the very clothes that you wear and the way you do everything – you have been trained in a certain way, to serve a certain purpose. Once you become like this – 24 hours man or 24 hours woman – you are troubled. But if you know how to simply be a piece of life, you will be fine; and when there is a requirement that you have to be a man or woman, you can play your role pretty well. So please save it. Don’t just go on spreading it around in the street. Just walk and live as a piece of life. If you are like this, there will be no conflict. It will be just fine. Two human beings can live together.

You should stop being a man or woman all the time. You don’t have to carry your manhood or womanhood 24 hours of the day. “Man and woman” are two compulsions. Two compulsions can never live together. The more identified you are with your sexuality, the more compulsive you will become. When you are compulsive, naturally you will step over many people. Once you start stepping on each other, there will be trouble. If you do not identify yourself too much with your womanhood or manhood and if you just walk as a piece of life, you will see that it is such a minor part of your life. You do not have to structure your life around it.

So much of your potential would find expression if you just do not get too identified with your sexuality. People would become so much more creative and so much more capable of various things that they have not imagined.

Source : Isha Yoga

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